Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Monday, November 2, 2009

A Woman's Liberation

Okay, so this is unrelated to photography and may be only tangentially related to fashion (and I'm not going to explore that possible connection here), but I found it both interesting and moving, so it's worth sharing.  

From Ursula K. LeGuin's "A Woman's Liberation" (collected in A Woman's Liberation:  A Choice of Futures by and about Women, edited by Connie Willis and Sheila Williams):
What is one man's and one woman's love and desire, against the history of two worlds, the great revolutions of our lifetimes, the hope, the unending cruelty of our species?  A little thing.  But a key is a little thing, next to the door it opens.  If you lose the key, the door may never be unlocked.  It is in our bodies that we lose or begin our freedom, in our bodies that we accept or end our slavery.
This is a beautiful articulation of the importance of the body and of love in politics of liberation (e.g., antiracist movements, gay rights movements, feminist movements).  If we do not have sovereignty over our own bodies, if we cannot take pleasure in ourselves, how can we possibly have any more far-reaching freedoms or power?  And, conversely, if we allow others to control or otherwise abuse our bodies, that prevents us from being truly free in ways that are beyond merely physical.

I highly recommend this story.


   
antique keys, originally uploaded by Ross McGinnes.

Monday, September 21, 2009

Day Three Hundred and Two: Love Note

Cory wrote this for me on the back of a receipt while we were having lunch. It makes me really happy.

Love Note:  July 29, 2009

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Day Two Hundred and Fifty: Love

Cory looking at me. My favorite little detail about this photo is that you can see my reflection in his glasses. Aww.

Love:  June 7, 2009

Monday, December 15, 2008

Simple



Flawless light in a darkening air
Alone...and shining there
Love will not elude you
Love is simple

I worship this tenacity
And the beautiful struggle we’re in
Love will not elude us
Love is simple

Be sure to know that
All in love
Is ours
And love, as a philosophy,
Is simple

I am calm in oblivion
As calm, as I ever have been
Love will not elude me
Love is simple

Be sure to know that
All in love
Is ours...
Is ours...

That all in love
Is ours

And love, as a philosophy,
Is simple...
And ours...

I adore k. d. lang's voice and I really like the lyrics of this song. They serve as a nice counter to the common conception of love (especially romantic love) as necessarily dramatic, complicated, and painful. Of course, difficulties do arise when dealing with another human being and their needs and desires. Humans are complex creatures and no two are alike. But while I know that love isn't always easy (it certainly can be a "beautiful struggle"), I refuse to believe that it has to be painful to be real.

I've done difficult love, melodramatic love, starstruck love. Like most of us, I was raised on this version of love. But I want a love that doesn't include pain as a central component and that isn't based on overcoming what keeps us apart (whether those things are bound up in external circumstances or in conflicting personalities). I want a love that has at its core something positive: not just physical attraction, but also common interests, shared humor and values, respect and admiration for one another, and, only after all of that is there, a willingness to work together toward the betterment of both parties.

It's taken me a long time to reach this point, but I don't think that a healthy, happy love is too much to ask for. In fact, I think it's within my grasp.