I am getting married in six days (yay!) and I don't have a dress (fuck.).
I ordered a dress from a seller on etsy (not linking because I'm waiting to see how she deals with the situation before making her identity public). It was custom made just for me with pretty, pretty black and white fabric.
I wanted a dress that I could wear after the wedding, too. I wanted something that would be special but not so special it would be a one-time affair. Plus, I've always wanted this kind of dress (50s-style party dress) but have had no luck finding a vintage one because my waist just isn't small enough to match the waists of the 1950s women who wore waistcinchers and such.
After many weeks of waiting (when I was told there was a 10-day turnaround time for making the dress), I finally was told it was on its way last week. After a week, it still hadn't arrived, so I sent the seller a message asking if she had a tracking number because it hadn't arrived and I was getting worried. She said it would be here the next day. And it was--because she actually sent it out then. It got here in two days, but she took a week between telling me she would send it out to actually sending it out.
The worst thing, though, is that it doesn't fit. I measured myself and sent her my measurements. The dress does not match those measurements. The bust is too small (I can squeeze into it, but it's not supercomfortable or as attractive as if it fit) and the armholes are WAY too small (they actually hurt me). With some help, I can get into it, but it's not what I wanted, it's not what I paid for, and I only have six days until I was planning to get married in it.
I am complaining--asking for it to be fixed or for my money back--but that doesn't erase the fact that it is a gorgeous dress, it is exactly what I wanted except for the fit, and now I don't have anything special (and nonpainful) to wear to get married in.
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